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Thursday, January 31 2019

Masculinity is not toxic, nor is it a sickness as the American Psychological Association’s new guidelines suggest. “The truth is that masculine traits such as aggression competitiveness and protective vigilance not only can be positive, but also have a biological basis. Men produce far more testosterone, which is associated biologically and behaviorally with increased aggression and competitiveness. They also produce more vasopressin, a hormone that makes men aggressively protective of their loved ones.” (Komisar, WSJ-1/17/19).

What is unhealthy is not masculinity or femininity but the demeaning of masculine men and feminine women. Ms. Komisar goes on to say, “Women produce more oxytocin when they nurture their children than men, and the hormone affects men and women differently. Oxytocin makes women more sensitive and empathetic, while men become more playfully, tactually stimulating with their children, encouraging resilience. These differences between men and women complement each other, allowing a couple to nurture and challenge their offspring.”

You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. – 1 Peter 3:7. Biology confirms Biblical teaching that men and women are uniquely different. Peter suggests that healthy masculinity is to live with your wife in an understanding way and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life. Wow! Evidently even back in the first century there were mean-spirited men that would not honor women, thus the need for emphasis from Peter. Healthy masculinity is what wives want, children need, churches desire and communities require.

There are mean-spirited men just as there are mean-spirited women. Twenty-two years ago, I was on the Mall in Washington D.C. with over a million other men. There were about 25 National Organization of Women in a barricaded off area yelling obscenities, making degrading comments to the men attending the Promise Keeper’s ‘Stand in the Gap’ event and were aggressively bating any man within earshot to engage them in a yelling match. No one took the bait and no one ever suggested that femininity was toxic.

Prayer guide: Father, thank You for Your design of mankind, that a man should “leave his mother and father, unite with his wife and become one flesh … for the sake of raising godly offspring.” (Genesis 2:24 & Malachi 2:15). I have fallen short of Your design by letting cultural norms and clear perversions influence my thinking, come into my home, divide Your churches and confuse communities. Forgive me Lord. Grant me strength to stand firm in Your word to rebuke the un-biblical and unhealthy attack on masculine men and feminine women. Be glorified through healthy marriages and godly offspring that are standing against cultural attacks. Help me be the masculine man You call me to be, that my family, church and community needs. Amen.

A faithful father is the masculine man his wife, children, church and community need.

Posted by: Wertz AT 06:00 am   |  Permalink   |  7 Comments  |  Email
Posted by Brenden O'Neill on 01/31/2019 - 07:32 AM
Thank you for this post. I was there too, Rick! What a great day of worship and unity! I am thankful for Faithful Fathering and the encouragement and guidance I've received from it to be a godly husband and dad.
Posted by Mike Avery on 01/31/2019 - 08:09 AM
Wonderful message! Specially at this time when we are living in an upside world. Thank you everything you do to bring a positive view to our lives.
Posted by Carlos Chao on 01/31/2019 - 10:12 AM
Rick, Great word! This is so needed. Thank you!
Posted by Ken Harris on 01/31/2019 - 11:08 AM
Amen and I agree with author, Jerry Ross, statement, "The church of Jesus Christ must Scripturally define, and purposefully re-instill the character qualities of Biblical masculinity back into our boys and young men."
Posted by James E. Myers on 01/31/2019 - 03:31 PM
This is great information Rick. The world is a confused place and the devil is running wild.
Posted by Eric on 01/31/2019 - 04:31 PM
Hello Men, I believe this toxic masculinity campaign is driven by the fact that many men focus on earthly masculinity than Christ likeness. Many Jews did not recognise Christ as the messiah because they wanted a General on a white horse and Christ came in riding on donkey and serving those around him. Which image of a man do I keep close to my heart? All to often I'm the general on a white horse in my house, rather than Christ like servant leader riding a donkey and washing feet. I would bet, most of those women yelling at the men had deep wounds from fathers who betrayed them, boyfriends who used them, strange males who groped them. Real men are Christ like who take his approach: take a beating not run away from it and keep on loving.
Posted by Paul Hughes on 02/28/2019 - 05:08 AM

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