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Wednesday, November 12 2014

In light of Veteran’s Day, this is a shout out to all those who have served in the military in defense of our great country, this one nation under God. Thank you!

I learned the hard way to honor our veterans. Growing up in a violent alcoholic home, I just knew I did not want anything to do with Dad nor have anything in common with him. After having our last run in, I left home at a young age. My eldest sister and her husband opened their home to me and I moved on with life. I had two prayers and one goal as a young man – I prayed I would be blessed with a happy and healthy marriage and family, and that I would keep my family well above the poverty line I had grown up below; My goal was to go as far as I could in the opposite direction of my dad.

All was going well with that plan. I had not effectively talked with Dad for 15 years - He did not attend my high school graduation, college graduation or wedding. Then our daughter was born. I could no longer deny having something in common with Dad – we were both dads. I extended an invitation for him to meet his new granddaughter and he accepted.

We were living in Midland, Texas, at the time and I scheduled a trip to visit the Nimitz Museum in Fredricksburg. It was 1987. The museum was quite small but it offered some of the most realistic views of the Pacific theatre during World War II. Dad had been a Hellcat pilot off the USS Wasp. When I saw actual footage of the Hellcats taking off and landing on the aircraft carriers as well as those that crashed in the Pacific with little chance of survival, I was convicted that I had passed judgment on a man I had no right to judge. If I had been in a cockpit engaged in air combat in my early 20’s and had to watch as a number of my buddies went down while trying to return to the ship, I may not have been able to turn from the alcohol either. I asked if he would forgive me. He did.

We reconciled and established a relationship that opened the door for Dad to know our daughter and to meet his only grandson. Dad passed in 1994. Ma had said at one point that the man she married before the war came back a different man. I think it is obvious that anyone going into battle will be different as a result. Tip your cap and say, “Thank you,” to veterans you see any day of the year. And if your dad has struggled to deal with battles he has faced in war or in life, take the initiative to be reconciled before any more time gets by.

Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you. – Exodus 20:12. This is the commandment with a promise.

Tips to Be Reconciled:

  1. Initiate an honest discussion on thoughts around your relationship;
  2. Exchange real expression of feelings about the past;
  3. Confess and ask forgiveness as you are led;
  4. Commit to build a new relationship.

Prayer guide: Lord, thank You for the many gifts and blessings in my life. Thank You for turning my heart to honor my father, to accept that he did the best he could do with life choices he faced. Thank You for Your Word and Your love that guides me through life choices I face in becoming the man, husband & father You expect me to be.  Amen.

A faithful father reconciles relationships to honor his father and mother.

Posted by: Wertz AT 12:53 pm   |  Permalink   |  6 Comments  |  Email
Excellent message, Rick. Your testimony and message each week is once again, touching a timely cord in lives cutting across generations - what a wonderful ministry. Thank you! Ralph
Posted by Ralph Wheeler on 11/13/2014 - 06:14 AM
Think about your story and consider mine as an extremely light version of very simular story. Now, talk about a paradigm shift!!!!! You said, "If I had been in a cockpit engaged in air combat in my early 20's and had to watch as a number of my buddies went down while trying to return to the ship, I may not have been able to turn from the alcohol either" Man you just gave me a new pair of glasses to view my father through. We have been good for years, but this level of empathy was never reached till I read those lines. Thanks Rick!!!!!!
Posted by Jeff Barnett on 11/13/2014 - 08:14 AM
Very touching. Thanks for sharing.
Posted by Andy on 11/13/2014 - 10:20 AM
Thank you for reacquainting us again with your story on accepting our parents as they are. It reminds me that our children our watching everything we do. We must constantly live with humility and respect the importance and power of forgiveness. For God the Glory
Posted by Peter Curran on 11/13/2014 - 11:11 AM
Very good testimony - thanks for sharing.
Posted by Buck Lamance on 11/13/2014 - 12:49 PM
Again, God is using you in a great way through your life's work and your story. Thanks Rick
Posted by Robert Z on 11/13/2014 - 04:53 PM

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