The last number of months have provided many an opportunity to focus in on family as a priority. In spite of the challenges we have faced across 2021, there was much to be thankful for as November wrapped up. Now it is December and time for dads to lead the way to CHRISTmas. A family focus on Advent can help all tune-in to the Reason for the season, the Christ-child’s birth.

Advent, starting four Sundays before Christmas, is one of my favorite seasons in the Church. As another crazy year passes by, the five candles that make up the Advent wreath help provide perspective. The first Sunday’s candle points to the HOPE that is Jesus’ second coming; the second candle represents the FAITH Christians have in the miracle birth of the Lord Jesus in Bethlehem; the third candle rekindles the JOY the shepherds experienced when they heard the angels sing on high; the fourth candle is a reminder of the PEACE introduced to the world through the Prince of Peace; and the fifth candle, lit on Christmas eve, is the Christ candle which is the Light Christians are to reflect in every discussion, decision and relationship faced in this life.

A voice of one calling: “In the wilderness prepare the way for the Lord; make straight in the desert a highway for our God. Every valley shall be raised up, every mountain and hill made low; the rough ground shall become level, the rugged places a plain. And the glory of the Lord will be revealed.” – Isaiah 40:3-5. This passage is a wake-up call in the wilderness that is this noisy world today. I am convicted of the mountains and valleys that have impeded my walk with the Lord. The mountains include status, self-importance and a drive to be successful in my strength. Valleys include sin in my life, wrong priorities and what I have undervalued - physical presence, emotional engagement and spiritual leadership in family. With an identity grounded in my accomplishments instead of in the Lord, in who I am versus Whose I am, the highway for our God is made anything but straight. Advent is a call to lead the way to CHRISTmas by leveling mountains and filling in valleys that can distract from right priorities – to prepare a way for the Lord for the next generation.

Tips to lead the way to CHRISTmas:

• Initiate an Advent wreath in your home and discuss the hope, faith, joy and peace enjoyed in relationship with Jesus the Christ as you light the respective candles;
• Read Isaiah 40:3-5 as a family and discuss the mountains & valleys of life;
• Read Luke 1:1 – 2:20 as a family and discuss the miracles, the relationship between Mary & Elizabeth and between Jesus & John the Baptist;
• Have each family member write a personal note of love and encouragement to an extended family member or a friend. 

Prayer guide: Father, thank You for Your word and Your call to lead by the example You set for us. Too often I have let my identity be defined by who I am instead of Whose I am, in my way instead of Your Way. Forgive me. Grant me clarity and strength to level the mountains and fill in the valleys of my life to make straight in the desert a highway for You. Help me tune-in to the Reason for the season and focus on ways I can lead my family through Advent to CHRISTmas, by Your grace and for Your glory. Amen.

A faithful father leads the way through Advent to CHRISTmas in family.